I realize I haven't written about any fall holidays, Abby's birthday,or Christmas. In light of my last post, though, I'm inspired to write about an incident that happened about a month ago, right after Thanksgiving. Festive posts to come soon!
Last February, I wrote a post about people's reactions to tiny babies. Maybe it's because Abby was/is particularly adorable and charming, but I suspect most people with small babies have people say these types of things to them. It usually opens with something about how precious/adorable the child is, then sometimes follows up with some vaguely ominous warning about the future. "They're cute until they start talking back." "Just wait til she starts moving." "Can I trade my teenager in for her?" I usually just smile and nod, because what can you say?
The Sunday after Thanksgiving, Kevin and I went with friends to the Christmas tree lighting in Bel Air. Afterwards, he, Abby and I had dinner at a local restaurant. Sitting near us was a large group of what appeared to be an extended family, including two preteen girls. Abby was being very charming (as usual), and was smiling and waving at everyone. As we got up to leave, one of the mothers at the table turned to us to tell us how adorable Abby was. I smiled graciously and thanked her, but then she added something unusual.
"It just keeps getting better and better," she said. "My girls are so much fun. Did you see that dance routine they did? (We had, and it was awesome.) They made that up while we were waiting in line to check out on Black Friday. People always tell you to enjoy while they're babies, but things are just so good now."
I thanked her. It was so refreshing to have someone say this. I had already sort of figured out that each stage has its own challenges and rewards, but to hear this offered up by a stranger was a gift. I understand the message to "enjoy them now," but why does it so often have to be followed by, "...because you might not enjoy them later!" Which is more or less the implication. I know my sweet girl might not always be sweet, but she'll always be MY girl and doing something wonderful. Or developmentally appropriate that will eventually be something wonderful, in any case. :)